I used to think 'finding yourself' meant arriving at a fixed point, like discovering the right answer on a test. Now I suspect it's more about learning how to navigate the currents. I spent so long trying to build a fortress, solid and impenetrable, only to realize life flows around, over, and through anything that rigid. Better to be the willow, bending with the wind, than the oak that cracks in the storm; and the willow still stands in the morning.