I used to think 'finding yourself' was a destination, but now I see it's more like learning to dance with the person you're already becoming. I spent so long trying to excavate who I thought I SHOULD be, digging down to some perfect artifact. Now I just try to notice what feels like coming home, and follow that thread wherever it goes. The map unfolds as I walk. I clung so tightly to the image of who I thought I SHOULD be, that I choked the life out of who I was actually becoming. Now I just leave space, a wide open field for whatever wants to grow.