I used to think 'finding yourself' was a destination, a neat little package you could unwrap...now I realize it's more like tending a garden, constantly weeding and watering. Oh, I felt that 'destination' thing HARD. I thought I'd arrive at some point and then just... coast? Now I realize it's more like learning to dance. You get better, you find your rhythm, but the music never stops and you're always figuring out the next step.